My guest today is Canadian writer, Carol Balawyder. Welcome Carol. Please share some of your writing with us.
I am first and foremost a writer of fiction: Crime (because of my background as a criminologist) and women’s fiction (because, well, I’m a woman).
But the first book which I self-published , Mourning Has Broken, was on grief, after my sister, Diana, died from a long battle with cancer. If you go on my web site’s blog you can read excerpts from the book. Here’s one of them:
Excerpt From I’m Going To Miss You, Caramel:
My father’s garage was a special garage because he parked his French Fry truck in it. When I think of myself standing as a child of three or four next to his truck I am filled with the sentiments of awe and wonder which is pretty much, except for certain exceptions, how I saw my father throughout his life. Now that he has been dead for over six years this wonderment and pride seems to increase with time although I do not quite know how to explain it for the simple reason that I don’t understand how this happens or why or what to make of it all. It seems such a private thing, in one way. And in another way so universal.
I guess this is what grief is about. The ups and downs. The anger. The sorrow. The bringing up of old wounds and the creation of new ones. Grief is about honor: Of the dead. The living. And oneself. And grief, I have learnt can turn into wonderment. My father is now stronger than ever alive in my heart.
Of course, the past is unattainable but if we’re lucky we can use the past as our guides as Gail Caldwell in her Pulitzer Prize Winning memoir A Strong West Wind proposes. “You can’t go back: to unboarded trains, to pristine battlefields before the dawn, to love that ended yesterday in Texas. Instead we have this stupid, lovely chaos, this burden and blessing called experience, the high beam of the past that is supposed to throw light on the future.”
My wish is that whoever may read Mourning Has Broken – in part or in full – will find relevance and be able to draw comparisons with his or her own experience of grief so that in some significant way I may touch and help them heal.
About me:
I have dreamt of being a writer since the age of twelve. I was the girl who found reading more interesting than boys and still find characters in fiction a lot more interesting than a lot of people I meet.
I am now retired from teaching criminology in a college and devote most of my time to my writing.
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Also available on amazon.com is “Missi’s Dating Adventures” an extension of the novel “The Dating Club” in which Missi is one of the main characters.
Missi Morgan is looking for a boyfriend. Maybe she’s just unlucky but she seems to attract the most unsuitable men you can imagine. After so many disappointing dates, her friends in The Dating Club persuade her to write about her experiences. At least some use could come from all these disheartening dates.
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Currently, Carol is working on two crime novels: “The Protector” and “Cora’s Cry for Help.” Watch for them after you check out “The Dating Club” and “Mourning has Broken.”
I’m reading Missi’s Dating Adventures right now. What a bunch of crazy dates she landed!
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Interesting Lady…
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Thanks, Rob. Lots of interesting writers out there. Hope to see you on my blog here one day too.
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Thanks, Anneli, for the privilege of being on your blog. I can’t wait to get my teeth into your novels.
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I think it’s a great idea – swapping stories. Also, now you know where you can find a copy-editor for your writing. Visit my webpage http://www.anneli-purchase.com Happy to host you on my blog, Carol. Best of luck with your writing ventures.
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Interesting to see works by the same author in different genres. From Mourning Has Broken to dating adventures to crime novels. Love the variety!
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The spice of life, right?!
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I enjoyed reading this post written by the author, Carol Balawyder. To quote,
“I guess this is what grief is about. The ups and downs. The anger. The sorrow. The bringing up of old wounds and the creation of new ones. Grief is about honor: Of the dead. The living. And oneself.”
Yes, that sums up grief, its emotions and tentacles of tangled memories. I especially “like” the line, “Grief is about honour: Of the dead. The living. And oneself.” Powerful words.
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Most of us learn about grief at some time in our lives and it’s encouraging to read how others have coped.
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